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Four To Get Married

Dr. Warren W. Wiersbe | April 4, 1976

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For a marriage to be happy, rewarding, and creative, four people must be involved: the Lord Jesus, a loving husband, a submissive wife, and the empowering Holy Spirit. 

As Pastor Wiersbe explains each person’s responsibility in marriage, he also reminds us that if you’re too busy to spend time reading the Bible and praying (both together and alone) you are destroying your marriage and home.

Transcripts for Dr. Wiersbe's sermons are forthcoming. Below is an outline of his message.


God invented marriage, and He wants it to blessand benefitus.

For a marriage to be happy, rewarding, and creative, four people must be involved: the Lord Jesus, a loving husband, a submissive wife, and the empowering Holy Spirit.

Marriage is meant to be enjoyed, not endured.

Four people who must be involved for the Christian marriage to work:

-      The LordJesus Christ

  • If you start your marriage without the Lord Jesus, you don’t have much chance for success.
  • Christ is the Savior, the Lord, and an example to the church.
  • You shouldn’t marry somebody unless you are willing to submit to what the Bible has to say.
  • The main problem in the Christian home is the lordship of Jesus Christ.
  • A coupleshould look to how Christ loves the churchas an example for marriage.
  • How do you invite the lordship of Christ into your marriage if you don’t pray together?
  • It takes more than two people being saved to have a happy marriage.

-      A lovinghusband

  • Loving your wife is one of the greatest commands.
  • Marriage is always a covenantcommitment.
  • Four characteristics of a spiritual husband’s love for his wife:
    • It is a separatedlove. 
      • A husband is called to leave his parents (physically, financially, and emotionally) and cling to his wife.
      • It is a sacrificiallove.
        • Love includes an attitude of service and giving—putting her first.
      • It is a sanctifyinglove.
        • A husband’s love should make his wife a better Christian.
      • It is a satisfyinglove.
        • The love of a man for his wife should nourishher emotionally and spiritually.
        • When a couple is nourished with that kind of love, they don’t want anyone else. 
  • Don’t marry someone until you can give that kind of love.

-      A submissivewife

  • Submission does not mean inferiority; it means order.
  • Misunderstanding the command to submit comes from rebellion against God’s order.
  • Wives are to submit to their husbands because of the lordship of Jesus and the headship of the husband.
    • When a husband loves as he is commanded, a wife should have no problem submitting. 
    • Submission is an act of obedience and love to the Lord.
    • The headship of the man is not a dictatorship.
  • Don’t marry someone until you are ready to submit as the church submits to Christ.
  • Submission is intended to bring fulfillment and growth.

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