Q: I’m an average 22-year-old guy who’s still a virgin. In today’s society that’s often seen as “pretty pathetic.”
I know God wants a man to wait for marriage, and I know there’s a reason for that, but it’s not easy to hold off the criticism, advice, humiliation, and even the questions about your sexuality and preferences. To me it’s all very difficult and frustrating. So how do I handle this?
Asked by: John, Illinois
A: Well, John, I was so happy to receive your question because I think it’s wonderful that you’re living a pure life.
And believe me, you will never regret it. If you talk to all those who are sexually active and then you think about what they take into their marriage, they’ve got a whole lot of baggage they need to take care of.
God is going honor what He’s doing in your life—your commitment to purity— to help you overcome temptation. You know the bottom line, John? Don’t worry about what your friends are saying. The Bible has a great deal to say in the book of Proverbs about those who are influenced by their peers—influenced wrongly by their peers. At the end of the day, what really matters is that you are serving the Lord—that you’re pleasing the Lord in all things. And if you take some harassment, accept that as part of the courage that you’ve shown as a follower of Christ. Rejoice and be exceedingly glad and keep doing what is right.
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