I’m dating and would like to marry a man whom I’ve known for many years.

We both have a lot of family issues; both of us have very dysfunctional families. He’s wonderful, but when he’s discouraged and depressed, he drinks. I’ve talked to him about this because I used to have an alcohol problem too.

Both of us are Christians, but what makes this difficult is that we have been sexually intimate, and so I feel an obligation to marry him. I know we’ve done wrong, and he agrees, but I can’t just walk away even though I see trouble ahead.

I’ve been dating a wonderful Christian woman.

I’m in love with her, but she still seems to be in love with her previous husband whom she divorced about two years ago because of his affairs. She says she still loves him even though he’s moved on and remarried.

She appears to be “spooked” by him. She also wants to get beyond her past relationship and she says she loves me, but at the same time, having been burned in that first marriage, she says she wants a husband who is perfect.

Well, I don’t meet that standard, but I’d like to be for her all that she needs.