My husband has been involved in an adulterous relationship with a divorcee. She’s now pregnant and so my husband has filed for divorce from me.

My husband’s friends attend our church, but they’re talking about “God’s blessing” on my husband and his girlfriend with a baby. I used to pray for my husband and the restoration of our marriage, but now I don’t know how to pray anymore. Satan is attacking my thoughts and emotions. Am I correct in thinking that these people who are willing to support my husband and his sin are listening to Satan’s lies?

I love my husband and feel sorry for him. However he has made it clear how much he loathes me and blames me for his unhappiness. How can people believe his lies about me and now think that their adultery is being blessed by true love and a gift from God in this baby? I feel like I’m the one being punished for my husband’s sinful choices.

My husband and I have been married for 30 years. It’s been tumultuous at best, and started with the fact that we got married because I was pregnant.

I was saved out of a liberal church 25 years ago, and while my husband says he is born again, I don’t think he gets it.

My husband left when our son was 15. He had a “deep, intimate, emotional affair” and then came back a year and a half later, but he came home for our son who was having difficulty in high school; he did not come back for me and our relationship. Our son’s needs were always put ahead of ours.

Our son is now 28 and married. My husband paid a very sizable amount of his very expensive wedding. I was so angry about the extravagance that I made many inappropriate comments. This caused tension which still hasn’t been resolved. My son will not allow me in his home to see his wife or my grandchild.

My heart has changed since then, and I have apologized. They say they forgive me, but unless I am talking about some general topic, I’m told I’m saying something inappropriate.

My question is: since my husband refuses to seek counseling for our marriage, clearly we have no emotional connection whatsoever. What should I do?