My husband of 25 years is addicted to spending.

He’s gotten our family so far into debt that I don’t think we’ll ever recover. No unfaithfulness, no pornography, no alcohol, or physical abuse—just spending. We’ve separated from one another several times and he promises to change, but immediately he gets us into more debt. 

Does the Bible only allow divorce for abusive situations, or can I get a divorce to protect me and my children from financial disaster? 

I don’t think I can forgive the men who’ve taken advantage of me.

My last experience was with a man who promised to marry me, but his parents talked him out of it, saying I wasn’t good enough for him. He talked me into being intimate with him, then recently I got an email saying that it’s over and he’s found a woman on the internet. How can God expect me to bear this pain? And why have I been deceived so many times? Pastor Lutzer, I really don’t know where to turn, I don’t know how to be healed.