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Q:

My heart is broken. I hoped to spend the rest of my life with my girlfriend.

Two nights ago, when I didn’t hear from her, I called the hospital thinking she might have been in an accident. To my relief, she wasn’t listed. So I left work early and went to her apartment. I began knocking on the door. She texted and said “Stop Please!” I was confused until I realized she was with her ex-boyfriend. I can’t describe how I feel…I’d just introduced her to my parents. I can’t speak about this—the pain is too deep. I need healing. Please send me a sermon on broken hearts.

Asked by: Ralph, Connecticut

A:

Well, Ralph I’m not so sure I have a sermon directly related to broken hearts, but I do have wonderful hope for you.

First, let me say this: I trust you can see God’s mercy in your pain. I think it’s good that He allowed you to see the true character of this young woman before you married her. Clearly she’s not one you can depend on. She’s not trustworthy. Though you’re in pain now, I believe the pain would be much worse had you found out about her true character after you married her.

I suggest that your relationship with her should be broken—because if you can’t trust, you really can’t love. Really, my friend, I believe the day will come when you will give thanks to God for what happened. I always say it is possible to be madly in love with someone you should not marry! Proof of that is the number of affairs that begin with a deep caring relationship with the wrong person, which is interpreted as love. Whitney Houston who was betrayed by her lovers and her husband said, “Love is where you find it.” Well, no, love is not just this feeling that you “find” but it is based on integrity, trust, and sacrifice.

Now, what about your broken heart? I have a verse for you. It says in Psalm 147, that “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds” and Ralph, the good news for you is that the very next verse says that: “He determines the number of stars and calls them by name.”

So from my heart to yours: the God who created all things, the God who made the stars, that God also heals broken hearts. Give Him your heart, give Him the broken pieces and give Him time—He’ll bring you though this painful crisis.

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